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Nowadays, the general trend
governing marriages is that the husband views his
responsibility towards his family as being a purely
materialistic one i.e. to provide financially for them (a
house, car, clothes, etc). This attittude is resulting in many
marriages breaking down since many husbands are seriously
deficient in not spending sufficient time with their families
- in communicating and interacting with the family and
children. Islam presents a different view of the role of the
husband, where he is made responsible for the Islamic
nurturing and development of his wife and children as well as
their psychological and moral welfare. In actual fact the time
which he spends with his family is not only a responsibility
but an act of Ibaadat for which he will be rewarded. Sad to
note that despite this, many husbands become restless and seek
every opportunity to withdraw from their families by, among
a great deal of time watching sports on TV
afternoons and evenings 'with the boys' at THE CLUB.
off at weekends to play golf or fishing.
It also often transpires that if
the wife (reluctantly) agrees to an arrangement allowing the
husband regular time 'with the boys' the opportunity is used
for other purposes e.g. conducting illicit relationships
He seeks more and more to be away
from his family and should the wife raise even the mildest
objection, he usually reacts with a great temper tantrum.
Sadly, many wives endure this torture of loneliness and
neglect with a great deal of bitterness and sorrow, tolerating
their miserable condition because they have no where else to
go. How often have you heard a tearful wife say, 'He's
got more time for his friends than for me'.
Allah's Messenger (Sallallaahu
layhi Wasallam) said, 'The best of you is he who is
best to his family'. (Mishkat)
Source: Jamiatul Ulama (Kwazulu-Natal)